“Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in, forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day, you shall begin it well and serenely...” Ralph Waldo Emerson
I really wish I was better at this. It's not a matter of holding grudges necessarily, it's that I tend to go over and over and over again in my mind what transpired, how I felt about it, what I did or didn't do right ... or wrong ... and I'll bet if you could be 100% honest with yourself, you're probably just as guilty. I should be more like my cats. If they have a bad day, or speak out of turn to each other and end up in a fight, once it's done, it's done. On to the business of purring, washing, napping, or the never ending pursuit of the catnip mouse.
In quilting there's the luxury of the "do over". if we botch up something, we're free to un-sew it ... and take another shot at it. But we don't get "do overs" in life. We can't turn back the clock to unsay something blurted out, or make a different decision than the one we made (which now appears to be a wrong one). When dawn comes, we have a new day ... peppered of course with the fall out from days gone by, but still new, nevertheless. The trick, then, is to make a better, more informed plan today than the ones of yesterdays gone by. They're over, they're done. Kaput. Finis.
So ... what's the plan for this new day. If yesterday's goals were unattainable, then perhaps a more realistic set of goals for today is in order. Cleaning the whole house probably isn't a realistic goal ... but certainly you can tackle one room. Put it straight, and things where they go. I can guarantee you'll feel better for doing that, and be proud of yourself. You'll have something at the end of the day you can measure. Unfortunately, there are some days when you can be busy all day and at the end of the day feel you have nothing to show for it. But, I'll bet if you really think about it, you probably DO have something to show for your day.
The key is to leave behind the "blunders and absurdities" to which Emerson refers. Don't begin your day on a low note, but rather on a good note. You woke up! You're alive! You have another day in which to make a difference, whether it's within the four walls of your home, or the building in which you work, or the neighborhood in which you live. Each new day is a gift. Receive it gratefully, and make the most you can of it. And when the day is done, leave it behind, sleep secure that the Master watches over you. Tomorrow is the new day. Begin it serenely.